April 06, 2010

[Goodbyes]

It is so difficult to condense all that has happened since i last blogged into just 1 posting, so i shall not even try. G went off for a week long holiday just last weekend and it seemed that so much has happened ever since! K started feeling quite a bit of separation anxiety as she had to go through the whole week without her elder sister around in the same space. She was so easy to leave at the kindie for the 1st week, we were lulled into a false sense of accomplishment. The 2nd week was definitely a regression, where she would cling to me and cry, not letting me leave the school. It was a trying week at school for her indeed (we are so thankful for her wonderful teachers, who were great at getting her to acclimatise back to the school routine). Our typical day would be to try to squeeze all our meetings / discussions in the 3 hours that K was at Kindie, then it would be 1 of us continuing our work at home, until she naps in the afternoon, where we will try to get as much done. After that would be the usual snacks and dinner prep, and playing with her until she sleeps, which is when work proper starts again.
G at 2 yrs old with "taigong"


Sadly, in the early morning hours of Monday, V's granddad passed away in his home. He was such a strong (and loud!) fixture in all our lives, absolutely loves the girls, and would be looking forward to seeing them every friday when we visit. They in turn, had a love-hate relationship with him. Due to the language barrier, they loved making funny faces and playing peek-a-boo with him, but can't understand what he tells them and gets frustrated when he tries to grab them for a hug and cuddle. It was quite a sudden passing and also the first time that anybody they know so closely has passed on, so it has been hard for the girls to understand and get to terms with. G as usual processed through it by asking lots of questions, she is always very concerned about the "when" and "why", and would ask if old equates to a "time to die". Her questions, often terribly acute, were a great reminder of how it is like to be a child. She prayed for G Grandpa, and wished that everybody could have been born at the same time, so that we could all die at the same time. K on the other hand, even though she didn't say very much during the whole funeral and after, was much more affected emotionally we felt. She hates us being away from her at anytime and would insist on us being with her all the time. She wants to be carried much more now, and would only be comfortable when we are around her. The separation anxiety is most pronounced at school, where before, she would be quite happy to spend the morning at kindie, she is now terrified that we would not be there for her when she finishes school. She will literally bawl and cling to us more than ever. Again, we are so thankful that she is at a school that the teachers are so good at taking care of them, we know that she'll be in good hands until she adjusts back once again to the school routine. So, it is with great sadness that we continue our Friday visits, but G Grandpa has had a really good life, he did not have much suffering, and was lucid and strong all the way until his passing. RIP grandpa, you are definitely sadly missed by all your grandchildren and g grandchildren.

Last weekend, the teachers came by our place too, but unfortunately, I did not have the camera ready! :P They did bring a huge basket of fruits and a wonderful handmade easter basket though. The girls LOVED the visit and have been talking about it ever since.


Cheeky one that is all snotty from her many tantrums this week
G loves reading to K, this is one of their favorite books - We're Going on a Bear Hunt.
I have been very busy on the craft front too, making these snap purses. I'm determined to get the pattern and technique right!
These are the larger ones, they measure about 12cm across the top, and are less fiddly to glue on.
I decided to make some with a little gather at the top, so that they can be poofier in shape and also hold more stuff. Combining 2 different fabrics too, so that there is more interest.
The inside is lined with heavy weight cotton, so that it maintains it's shape even when empty.

I'm in love with the red polka dot lining, I think every purse should have a little surprise when you flip it open!
This is actually one of my favorite sizes. I think they are tiny enough to be cute and yet just big enough to be functional.



All the different fabrics, but using the same pattern.
I got a little bored making them just simply in 1 or 2 fabrics, so I tried out one with a quilted fabric and my signature embroidery. I think it does make it look slightly more unique, and the quilted fabric holds it's shape wonderfully even without a heavier cotton lining.

Another purpose for the oilcloth? :) I made up this makeup brush holder really quickly. It's so simple yet functional!!

2 comments:

meta-lodestar said...

Goodbye Ah-Ye. Thank you for all the love that you showered on all of us. You will forever a part of our lives even if you may not be physically here with us. We miss you lots.

Wordpress Development said...

I missed our bonding time my grandfather. Those are beautiful by the way.